Monday, October 17, 2011

Starting Fresh.

Well today is a new week. Last week brought many changes into my life. I learned first hand the experience of being cyber bullied. I realized what teens all across America are suffering from and how alone you can feel when there is nothing you can do to stop the train wreck of harassment being slewed against you. Warning to anyone who reads this, you can have anything said about you and lied about you on facebook and pretty much - there is nothing you can do to stop it. My facebook page is shut down and I am no longer letting myself be a victim. Off facebook the police can be involved.

Everything in my body screams - justice! I want to clear my name and give excuses for everything that was said about me. But after council and prayer that is not what I am going to do. So this is my blog post saying - if you heard anything I might have said or done - PLEASE come to me. Please ask me.

"I didn't say it" " I am sorry"

If you think it sounds crazy and out of character - please ask me. If you don't care enough to ask - then you probably never really cared enough about me. Which is ok. I know on facebook when you have many friends a lot of people don't really have time to invest in you. The real friends probably already know or have asked. That is ok :)

I used this experience to discuss with my daughter who is 9 the dangers of cyber bullying. I told her that I am almost 100 percent sure there will come a time in life when her friends will turn on her. She will feel like her world is crashing down. But it is NEVER the end of the world. She saw mommy cry a LOT over the past days. She saw MAJOR problems when the rumors reached someone who was mentally unstable. She saw Dangers. She saw and heard suicide threats. (not mine) This was not something I was planning on discussing with my kids yet but when life throws things up to you, you gotta do it. We discussed how no matter what happens in life- there is NOTHING NOTHING NOTHING that is ever too big, or too hopeless. She will always have her family. Always have God. And NOTHING is ever worth giving up.

So for everyone who has said "I hope you can mend your relationship" with the so called friend. I am baffled at that thought. Careless words are one thing - but over the past days I have been faced with dangerous life changing situations. I will forgive. I already have. But I will never mend that relationship. Already had been burned and forgiven and went back. To do so again would be ludicrous. I am praying for them. I am forgiving. I am mending the mess. I lost a bit. Facebook is gone for me. Ok. Friends are gone but in that area - a weight has been lifted. Things are messed up with my kids dad now. But this too shall pass.

So the major theme of the harassment was "Linda calls herself a Christian but does.... or says..." I dont want to defend. I dont want to excuse. What I do want to point out is this. Christ died for SINNERS. If becoming a Christian meant I was magically a perfect person - then that would ROCK! But it doesnt happen. I am still human. You don't get a pill that magically erases every human nature in you. You still fail. A LOT. But that is what is so great about being a Christian - GOD GIVES US GRACE! He loves us even when we fail and make the wrong choices. He is a mighty God. And when you expect Christians to be perfect and when you find out they are not - and shout hypocrite - that is always gonna do you wrong. Because the only perfect one was Jesus. And putting humans on a pedistool and becoming bitter when you see flaws is a recipe for trouble. Worship GOD not the Christians. They are flawed. They are humans. And when I do mess up it just shows me how much more I need a Savior.

Thank you God for saving a sinner like me. Thank you for Loving me despite all my mistakes.

Thank you to my good friends who love me and don't assume. Thank you for being there during this hard times. I have once again been shown what amazing friends I do have. Who were my rock in the hard times.

And Prayers for all the teens and others like me - being cyber bullied and harassed. Be careful to all the rest. I miss you to all my facebook friends but it is going to take a lot for me to feel safe enough to venture back into that world again. Guess it is back to blogging for me.


  1. Oh wow! That is terrible! Just recently I wrote how people sometimes use Facebook for exactly these kind of things to hurt others. I am so sorry you had to endure this. Hang in there!

  2. Wow is right! SO sorry you have been going through this ordeal. It certainly is a different and dangerous world today with many, many sources of stress and lies and rumours. I am glad you feel this was a learning experience to your daughter/children; it's just too bad it ever had to happen.

  3. I saw that your name disappeared off my friend list - I was looking for you to see how you've been. I'm so glad you posted here and now I know why!

    Such a shame that people have to act like animals (basically). Seriously.

    I'm sorry you have been through such a horrific situation! I will continue praying for you and your family. What a rough year or so you've had!

    God's love and care is the BEST, even when everything else is so out of whack. He knows your problems and He is right there with you!

  4. Oh, Linda! What a terrible thing! I'm so sorry to read that you had to and are dealing with this abuse! Hang in there!

  5. I'm sorry for what you've been through, Linda. I found out what was going on when I couldn't find your profile on Facebook the other day. I messaged your mom, and she briefly let me know what was going on. You're right...We all need to forgive, but this doesn't always include restoring the relationship. Sometimes, for our protection (and our loved ones' protection) it's best to forgive and then part ways. I think your statement is so perfect:

    "Worship GOD not the Christians. They are flawed. They are humans. And when I do mess up it just shows me how much more I need a Savior".

    We (including myself) all need to be reminded of this sometimes! This is so true. Being a Christian is not about being perfect. It's about knowing, loving and following our Lord and Savior. :)

  6. (((Hugs))) I was wondering where you've been. So sorry that you had to go through this.

  7. Ugghhh...I just wrote a long reply but it did not save...

    In short I am sorry this happened to you. I just realized that I had not seen you on at all and knew you would comment about my dad being sick. That is why it took me so long to realize you were gone. I had asked Mandi and Dana if they had seen you. I will write more later...

  8. Hey Jeanne. My mom said one of my friends messaged her. I am here and womens-place for now. Prayers for your dad!

  9. That would be me!!! It took me a few hours to remember your maiden name but all of the sudden it came to me and then I remembered your brother's name and came across your mom...My dad is doing better. He is getting stronger everyday.

  10. Good to hear Jeanne! I know when my dad was sick it was awful. He is such a rock in our family. Prayers for continued strength for him!