Father, Mother, Sister, Brother,
We Pitch In And Help Each Other.
And so is our life. My kids generally are each others best friends and they love me and honor my knowledge.
Then came public school. Each Monday it would start. Alyssa would go to school sweetly. Then she came home and I spent the next two hours fixing her from school. She came home with "my brother is gross, ick, leave me alone you annoyance" attitudes. Sure I know kids do not like their little brothers a lot... but my kids were best friends. Tristan would wait eagerly for his sister to come home and the look on her face when he talked to her was like he was not worth her time. She would then tell me how her friends B___ would teach her these rhymes where Girls go to Mars to become Stars and Boys go to Jupiter to get more Stupider, etc etc. And another friend J---- would tell her, interrupting her talking to boys and pulling her away, that she did not have to talk to boys.
Then came the attitude towards me. There were a few instances where the things I taught her were not the same way her teacher did it. And of course mine was wrong. Everything I said at home was returned with a "Well Mrs. S----- does not do it that way", or "Mrs. S---- says..."
I was breaking... where did my angel go who loved us, helped me out, played with her brothers, did things nice for everyone just because she loved us.... was this just an age?? I was not liking this teenager attitude on my 8 year old!
So then I had enough and it influenced my decision to pull them from school. I was so tired of being "stupid" and "wrong" already to my kid. I hated the "looks" and the she already did so much work at school that after homework and dinner she could not pitch in on our chores around the house. All the home skills I was teaching were gone as we had no time and I felt bad if she had no down time in the evening at all.
The day she was brought home from school her attitude changed. We were her world again and my baby returned. No it is not sheltering. It is the way it should be. She is a good child even at school but I could not shelter her from the negative attitudes that she picked up. It happens when you are in company of others, even God warns us about it.
So now my kids are best friends again. I go into the bathroom and find notes like this on my shower wall....
It says "mom thank you for everything. you are the best mom. love Alyssa"
I have returned to the land of I am smart again and she does not question anything I say. I see my kids working together and caring about each other. Sure her brothers get on her nerves, all kids do. But they need each other and do not stay upset.
I love counting on my girl and the bond we are forming in life. We talk, we enjoy each other, we help each other. Life is hectic and not always free of bumps but we are doing so well again and I am so happy to have my "girl" back. I am counting my blessings. You do not know the impact of homeschooling on their family attitude until it is changed. So happy to have it back to normal again.